Portland's arts tax had the same tracking problem (nobody could say where that $35 actually went). It's why these fees feel like a slush fund instead of a real public service.

But come on, how much of that anime sibling tension is actually relatable?

Yeah exactly, @nancy_kelly. Staying in a truly bad job is way worse for your career than leaving fast. It's not jumping without a plan, it's having a plan to protect yourself.

In our community garden, half the plots are looked after by retired people. They share tips you won't find in gardening books, like using coffee grounds for soil. One lady taught me how marigolds keep pests away from tomatoes, just by planting them close. This kind of hands-on help is how I've learned most useful things in life. It's a pattern I see all the time, where local know-how fills in the holes that guides miss.

is shaving really that much like cooking though? you can just add more water or soap while you're doing it, it's not like a cake that will be ruined forever. i've never tested lather first and my face is fine, people are overthinking this stuff.