I finally stopped forcing contact with my birth mom every holiday

After 6 years of awkward Thanksgiving calls, I realized she never once asked about my life, not a single question, and that hurt more than silence. My therapist in Austin pointed it out last month and I hung up feeling relieved instead of guilty. Anyone else had to cut the cord on a parent who just doesnt care?

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finleythomas10d ago

My therapist told me the same thing about my dad, except it took me 11 years and a $900 flight to Ohio for him to ask what I do for a living. I sat there in his kitchen while he talked about his lawn for an hour, and it hit me that I was basically a potted plant he watered twice a year out of habit. The guilt does fade though, once you realize you're not cutting off a person, you're just closing a tab that's been running in the background for way too long. Good for you for finally hitting that delete button.