Our tomato seedling disaster has me and my wife arguing over kid-led gardening

My son got really into starting tomatoes from seed this year after seeing it on a kids show. I was all for him having his own little pots and doing everything himself, even if it meant a few messes. My wife though, she insisted on setting up a strict watering schedule and moving the trays to the exact right light spot every day. He forgot to water his once, and a bunch shriveled up, which made him cry. I say that's how he learns what plants need, through messing up. She says we should protect the plants and his feelings by helping more. Now we're at a standoff about whether real plant love comes from freedom or from careful guidance. How do you handle young helpers in your garden? Let them run wild or keep a close eye?

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the_jessica7d ago

Have you asked your wife why she's so set on the plants not dying? Is it about the kid's feelings, or is it about her own need to see a project done right? Sometimes people mix up loving a kid with controlling an outcome.

mia_scott777d ago

Yes, I did that with my son's science fair project.