I finally told my aunt the real story about placing my daughter for adoption and she totally shocked me

For 14 years my aunt would make these passive comments about how 'brave' I was and I always felt judged. Last weekend at her house in Tulsa I just snapped and told her the full messy truth about the labor, the social worker visits, the panic attacks. She just got quiet and then admitted she placed a son in 1985 and never told anyone in the family. Has anyone else had a relative come out of the woodwork with their own adoption story after you opened up first?

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victor_butler506d ago

Did you ever read that study about how adoption was handled differently in the 80s? I swear I saw something online about how back then families just never talked about it, like a huge secret everyone kept. Your aunt probably carried that weight for decades, and it makes sense she finally cracked when you showed her it was okay to be real. My own cousin told me last year she had an abortion in high school after I mentioned my own struggles, and it felt like the family just had this hidden layer of pain that nobody touched. It's wild how our stories can unlock other people's locked doors like that. I'm glad she finally let you in, even if it took 14 years to get there.

the_morgan6d ago

Oh wow, no I never saw that study @victor_butler50. That's honestly insane.